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Trust and Confidence Together Go Hand-in-Hand

Is Your Confidence Lacking due to not Trusting Yourself

If you have had a difficult time trusting yourself, it may be a sign that you lack confidence. You cannot develop any trust without confidence. Feel secure in your abilities and be strong in your convictions. But, know when you are wrong as well.

The above requires you to develop confidence. That may seem scary to you. However, it’s not as difficult as you think. No one is born with confidence. It is something people learn and develop during their lives. It’s the same for you. Take steps to develop your confidence and trusting yourself will become easy.

Fear Affects Your Confidence

Fear is the biggest detractor from confidence. When you give into your fears, you will diminish the chances of building up your confidence. That is something that deepens if you don’t handle it quickly. You need to face your fears head-on.

That doesn’t mean you should throw caution to the wind and be reckless. You should take chances but only if they won’t put your life or others’ lives in danger. You would not jump out of a plane without a parachute. Don’t make frivolous decisions, either. Confidence is about knowing the difference.

Start with Small Tasks

Start out with small tasks that you have been afraid to try in the past. Most outcomes will turn out better than you imagine. If you try to project what will happen, and it is always a negative outcome, you will never make any decisions. Take on those small tasks without thinking too much about what’s going to happen. That will build up your confidence as you’ve never seen before.

You should ask questions when you aren’t sure about the situations you face. Confidence is not about having all the answers. It’s about knowing where to find them and who to rely on with the knowledge that you need. It’s also about pulling the trigger when you have gathered enough information.

Confidence is about taking responsibility for your decisions and your actions. If you believe in what you are doing, you can portray that belief to others affected by your decisions. You will come across as being weak if you start blaming others when your situation doesn’t go as planned. Once this happens, others will lose faith in you. That will cause your confidence to erode, and self-doubt will take over. When you make your decisions, you own them, even if they don’t work out.

When you increase your confidence, you will automatically increase trusting yourself. Then, you can accomplish more than you ever imagined.

Your Romantic Relationships May Fail If You Don’t Trust Yourself

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Why is Trust Important in A Relationship

A stable romantic relationship can’t exist if you don’t trust yourself. Any partner you hook up with will lose confidence in you over a time period. You will constantly be doubting yourself; you won’t be able to make decisions; and quite frankly, you may not perform very well when it comes to the bedroom.

Romantic relationships have a foundation of trust. While you may believe you trust your partner, it’s difficult to continue if you don’t trust yourself. You will likely put yourself down constantly in front of your partner. He or she may sympathize with you in the beginning, but the behavior will get old after a while.

Contrast this behavior with trusting yourself. You will have confidence that will exude to your partner. Most people find this attribute attractive and will bring about a more responsive partner. You will have your needs met both emotionally and physically. That is sure to make you happier in your relationship.

If you don’t trust yourself, it’s not likely you will share your feelings with your partner. Relationships build around communication as well as trust. If you cannot communicate to your partner, this will break you apart.

A lack of trust in yourself will not lead you to a positive attitude. You will project negativity to anyone you associate with, including your partner. Try to put yourself in his or her shoes. Would you want to hang around someone who is constantly negative? It’s quite likely you won’t. Over time, you will look for ways to avoid that person. The same will happen to you. People will avoid you if you are negative.

It is okay to share your feelings with your partner, even if those feelings are occasionally negative. It’s almost impossible to be positive 100% of your life. You just have to strike a balance and work towards being more positive than negative. That cannot happen if you doubt yourself and don’t have an internal trust.

It takes work, but you will have a better chance at having a great romantic relationship if you trust yourself than if you don’t. Your partner will be excited to be with you and will want to spend time with you. Your partner will be happier which will make you happier. You have the choice of remaining closed and lacking trust in yourself or opening up and gaining the confidence to have the best possible relationship.